Though divorce may be one of the worst things that you can go through, trying to iron out a child custody agreement can make it even worse. In fact, nothing can stop a divorce settlement quicker than your children.

In order to get a settlement figured out, you are going to need to work with your ex. You are going to have to iron out the settlement by talking rationally and calmly. Losing your cool is not an option.

Here are some tips to help you stay calm during a child custody battle.

Remember that you are talking about your children and you want the best for them. Though you may feel like you are losing your children, it is important to do what is best for them. If that involves spending most of their time with your ex, that is what you need to do. Don’t fight for them, just to get back at your ex.

The sooner that you can start to communicate with your ex rationally about the children, the better off everyone will be. It is important that you learn a better way to communicate. Now is a good time to start. Listen to your ex before you answer. Don’t think about anything other than what he or she is saying before you respond. Then, your ex will need to do the same for you.

If you have to walk away, do it before you say something that you can’t take back. Many people react without thinking and then they regret what they said (or at least the fact that they hurt someone that badly). If you feel like your temper is getting the best of you, take a break to calm down.

Though a child custody battle can become ugly rather fast, they don’t have to be. In fact, it is important that you think about your children first. That may help you make the right decision, which is what is best for your children. Please contact us at the Slaughter Law Firm with any and all questions related to divorce or a child custody battle.